Published by Philip G
Here’s an interesting article my step-mother sent over today. It is quite a conversational piece. Quite frankly, it tries to paint men as “child-men” because they like gaming and getting married at a later age.
I have to say, from a “SYM” perspective, I think the article was written by a woman. Oh hey, what do you know, just looked at the credits and it was. Well, sit back and grab a bag of popcorn, this turned out to be a long post. ha, oops..
Okay, to start off, I think this article is confusing two things into one. Lets start off with the gaming thing. The “adolescent child-men” as she calls them. It’s quick obvious she doesn’t understand men. This isn’t surprising though. I don’t understand women. Women and men just don’t “get” each other — that’s why so many things are “compromised” when they get married (as a guy, the “rule of thumb” is guys compromises more). Guys enjoy gaming, women do not. So what happens when a guy that grew up on gaming consoles grows up? He chooses not to “compromise” and keep his games. He gets into a field building the thing he loves — games. He realizes he doesn’t like bright colored games, and decided to build something his new adult mind would appreciate: it’s still a game. Women either compromises and learns to love these men or they get complete turned off and see them as “adolescent child-men.” Unfortunately, from my understanding of women ( ^ read above, I don’t understand them ^ ), they are more often turned off by “adolescent child-men” before they can understand the guy. Kay is very obviously one of these women. The sheer fact she calls men that play games “child-men” nails it.
Secondly, the issue of men remaining single for longer periods of time, not wishing to get married, just having fun, etc….She starts off with the example of 1965 where men often date and regularly marry women they meet in high school and how this doesn’t happen anymore… Well, pardon my language, NO SHIT?! Why? It’s quite simple: society has gotten SO hostile towards sex (and anything related — kissing, holding hands, even LOOKING), that many guys just say screw it. They don’t want to deal with the hassle while they’re still under the eye of the officials (school, parents, etc) and leave it alone until college (where it’s more “expected” now).
Lets jump back farther in history than 1965. Lets go back to 1865 — kids were “adults” by the time they are 14, often right after the “average age” of puberty. Over the years, that age as increased. I’m guessing due to parents and society trying to “protect the children.” If that trend continues, you won’t be an “adult” until age 30 in the next hundred or so years!
Now, you have a 14 year old kid, who is now officially sexually mature — by scientific standards, an official adult — being plugged into a society that’s afraid of sex. Want to watch somebody getting shot in the face? No problem! Want to see a womans breast? OMG! Close the curtains! Cover their eyes! Slap a law suit for destroying our youth! Call the national guard! What is wrong with our society when our natural hormones are so wrong? It’s gotten so bad, kids are not allowed to kiss at school; some schools don’t even allow them to hold hands! And you wonder why kids don’t meet their wives in high school?
Lets then couple that with what’s happening — suppression. So now this kid has a choice, suppression his natural feelings, or go against authority. Authority here being school, parents and society. Many of them just suppresses it, consciously or subconsciously. Now, high school is over, and they goto college. This part is important, it’s the whole away from parents and away from “high school — no touching” mentality. Kids go crazy, providing they actually got away from the suppressing authority. And wouldn’t you look at this: Kay even says here, kids these days don’t meet their future wife until college. Gee, I wonder why?
I know this might come off as a bit of a rant, but it’s a direction I see the US heading towards and I hate it. The hostility towards gays is stupid. The hostility towards pre-marital sex is stupid. The hostility towards anything sexual is stupid. What we should be hostel towards is violence. Society says they are but they don’t show it. Have you taken a look at prime time TV Lately? Show a naked ass and you’re fined $50k. Show somebody shot in the head (as long as there’s no visible blood!) and it’s remains PG. Am I the only one that sees something a little backwards here?
Maybe it’s because I don’t kids? I don’t know. I sure hope it’s not that. Because when I DO have kids, I sure as hell don’t want them to be suppressed or afraid to say or talk about anything sex related with me. I want them to be completely open — and I know the only way for that to happen is I have to be open with them. And yes, that does mean allowing them to see porn without any recourse. It IS the human body after all. Kids should be taught to respect it not fear it.
. Jan 30, 2008
Filed under: Delusioned
